If crying is difficult to cope with...
Every parent has moments of despair when they just can't cope with the never-ending crying baby. It is important to recognize these moments and ensure that you get relief and support.
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One of the things you should be aware of is that every parent at some time or other contemplates doing something physically violent to her/his children. Most mothers with newborn babies who are exhausted and trying to pacify a screaming baby will confess that they have thought of doing anything to stop the baby crying. It is not abnormal to think such things. It's only abnormal to do them.
It can be particularly difficult to cope before your period. Mothers who are ideal parents - very loving and caring, sympathetic and patient for the rest of the month - can become far less tolerant for the few days prior to menstruation.
Most mothers are aware when they begin to lose hold on themselves and are able to control violent behaviour against their children. But if you feel yourself sliding down the slippery slope you should seek help, first from your partner or from a friend, but also from your health visitor or doctor.
Get help if necessary
If you ever find yourself hitting or shaking your baby, don't feel that it is an admission of failure to seek help. You must do so, both for your child's sake and your own. Equally don't stand by and let your partner injure your child: try to make her/him see that what she or he is doing is wrong, and if she or he is impervious to your pleas, seek help on behalf of both of you. Contact your doctor, health visitor, the police or your local health authority immediately.
New Babycare
Copyright © 2009 Dorling Kindersley
Text copyright © 2009 Miriam Stoppard
Posted 03.11.2010
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